How to Recognize and Help Sensitive Children to Manage Emotions

Does Mother see Little often cry or excessive anger when hearing the words of others when joking? Or, he cried loud and long, just because he did not get a red balloon like his friend. It is possible for children with these characteristics, including children who are psychologically sensitive. These children naturally naturally overreact to something that is actually normal. However, around 15-20% of children are born with a nervous system that is more alert and quick to react to things that happen around them. Not only on the actions or words of others, but also on the smell, sound, light, and even the mood of the people around him. Toddlers who are quite sensitive can not even rarely read the emotions of their parents, you know, Mother.

Emotional with High Empathy

According to psychologists, parenting patterns, especially at an early age, will determine whether this sensitivity will be something that is troubling and causes prolonged anxiety or is actually an advantage that children have. Mother is advised to be able to accompany her properly, so that she will be able to manage her emotions properly and positively. Being a parent of a child who is too sensitive can indeed be a challenge. These responsive children often feel overwhelmed when under pressure or stress because of new situations, sudden changes, or crowds. In addition, he also felt certain events such as defeat and criticism in depth. There are children who can cry just by listening to music. There are also those who cannot stand the sight of violent scenes in films. This is why children like this are often labeled emotional children, angry, like crying or shy children. Yet on the other hand, children who are very sensitive actually have attention, affection, tenderness, and high creativity. For example, he can share what his friend feels when he is being bullied.

Tips for Accompanying Sensitive Children

Sensitive children need proper assistance from parents so that their sensitivity can be a means of creativity and empathy, so that they are able to manage their emotions and use them for positive things. Here are some guidelines for parents who have children who are overly sensitive:

• Sensitivity needs to be regarded as something positive

Parents or psychologists cannot change sensitive children into more insensitive children or become indifferent like other children. What can be done is to manage sensitivity into more value. It's not easy to stay calm when your baby keeps crying because it's not important. But sensitivity is also a characteristic possessed by artists such as musicians, painters, actors. Therefore, if directed properly, sensitive children can pour their emotions to be creative as in pictures, music, or other works.

• Discipline in a special way

Disciplining a sensitive child violently will only make him more depressed and risk causing an energy explosion at one time, such as tantrums. But that also does not mean sensitive children should not be disciplined. Mother can help her deal with her emotions for example by practicing breathing when angry. Mother can also help to make a child's life more structured with more diplomatic sentences such as, "Watch it in five minutes. As promised, we sleep at 9 pm. "This is better than Mother suddenly turning off the TV and telling her to sleep right then and there with a loud voice.

• Teach children to manage emotions

When he cries, telling him to stop crying might actually make his cry louder. Mother can try to stop her crying by playing and suddenly exclaim, "Become a statue!" If successful, this pause gives the Mother and the Child a chance to take a deep breath and calm down. Mother can also distract him. For example, inviting children to count numbers 1 to 10 loudly.

• Ask the child to tell the reason for his actions

If he can tell his experience, invite him to tell the reason why he cried, and what can be done together to make him feel happy. Mother can also bring up ideas such as inviting friends to play at home, draw, or play in the park.

• Turning bad moments into positive ones

If a child cries because of being ridiculed, Mother can turn this moment into a time for dialogue. Encourage the child to understand that it's okay to be different, and that he doesn't need to listen too much to other people's bad words. Maybe he will not immediately understand. But over time, Mother's words will he remember and form his confidence.

• Give time outs

Children who are too sensitive tend to be easily affected by the situation in their environment, including at school and at home. So it requires a special place or activity that makes it calm. The mother can pay attention to where and when she feels calm, and how these needs can be met.

Mother's task may be more challenging if overly sensitive psychological conditions occur in boys who are not common to cry easily and show emotion. In this case, Mother needs to accept and appreciate the Little One, including her deep feelings and responses that are different from other children. Older children tend not to show their feelings and suppress their sensitivity. But he needs to learn to love himself and know when he doesn't need to think too much about others. In addition to the above, sensitivity can also be made worse by other conditions such as lack of sleep or irregular eating patterns. It can also be triggered by major changes such as the birth of a new sister or class with new friends. If this happens, Mother can help your child to learn to adapt. If the child seems too sensitive to interfere with everyday life and achievement, it's good if Mother consulted a child psychologist. In the end, sensitive children need role models so they can use their "strengths" in a world that often regards sensitivity as deficient. Being a parent who can manage emotions, not suppress or let them lose control, is an important thing that he will remember to set as an example.